THERE IS NO MERIT IIN SELF-SACRIFICE
There is no such thing as SELF-SACRIFICE, and there is NO SUCH ROAD and do not advocate it to anyone. Many people make a great show out of helping others, for example encouraging them to lean upon them. They might believe this to be a quite holy, virtuous enterprise. Instead they are keeping other people from recognizing and using their own innate strengths and abilities.
There is no merit in self-sacrifice. For one thing it is impossible. The self grows and develops and cannot be annihilated. You must not expect to be “perfect” – a state of fulfillment beyond which there is no further growth, and no such state exists.
Self-sacrifice usually means throwing the “burden” of yourself upon someone else and making it their responsibility.
Even a mother telling her child, “I gave up my life for you” is speaking nonsense. In basic terms such a mother believes, no matter what she says, that she did not have much to give up and the “giving up” gave her a life that she wanted.
Similarly a child who says, “I gave up my life for my parents and devoted my life to their care” means “I was afraid to live my own life, and afraid to let them live theirs. And is so ‘giving up’ my life I gain the life I wanted.”
Love does not demand sacrifice. You do not help your children by keeping them chain to you, but you do not help your parents either by encouraging their sense of helplessness.
The natural force of love is everywhere within you, and the normal methods of communication are always meant to bring you in contact with fellow creatures.
You must love yourself before you love another. When you love others, you grant them the innate freedom and do not cravenly insist they attend you. There is no basic difference between the love of a child for a parent or vice versa, a wife for a husband, a brother for a sister. There are only various expressions and characteristics of love, and all love affirms.
There are many errors frequently committed in the name of love.
There is no merit in self-sacrifice. For one thing it is impossible. The self grows and develops and cannot be annihilated. You must not expect to be “perfect” – a state of fulfillment beyond which there is no further growth, and no such state exists.
Self-sacrifice usually means throwing the “burden” of yourself upon someone else and making it their responsibility.
Even a mother telling her child, “I gave up my life for you” is speaking nonsense. In basic terms such a mother believes, no matter what she says, that she did not have much to give up and the “giving up” gave her a life that she wanted.
Similarly a child who says, “I gave up my life for my parents and devoted my life to their care” means “I was afraid to live my own life, and afraid to let them live theirs. And is so ‘giving up’ my life I gain the life I wanted.”
Love does not demand sacrifice. You do not help your children by keeping them chain to you, but you do not help your parents either by encouraging their sense of helplessness.
The natural force of love is everywhere within you, and the normal methods of communication are always meant to bring you in contact with fellow creatures.
You must love yourself before you love another. When you love others, you grant them the innate freedom and do not cravenly insist they attend you. There is no basic difference between the love of a child for a parent or vice versa, a wife for a husband, a brother for a sister. There are only various expressions and characteristics of love, and all love affirms.
There are many errors frequently committed in the name of love.
posted by multidimid at 3:12 PM
6 Comments:
"Self-sacrifice usually means throwing the “burden” of yourself upon someone else and making it their responsibility."
That is bullshit.
Self sacrifice means genuinely giving of yourself to others because you could not live any other way.
It is not a question of self sacrifice to make concessions in one's life to fulfil our moral obligations as a HUMAN BEING,
To take your example - a child who "sacrifices" their life to look after their parents should not be scorned - and how DARE you make it as if they are cowards who cannot face the world?
Have YOU ever truly LOVED another person in subjugating your desires for theirs?
Do you know how difficult it is to look after a truly ailing parent who has nowhere to turn? Do you know how much courage that takes?
Frankly, I doubt you yourself understand the meaning of the word love. How can a person love oneself in abandoning their parents or friends?
That's not love. That is blatent selfishness.
Welcome Infinite Bowel for commenting and expressing your contrary views, your beliefs and your truths on self-sacrifice basing perhaps in the light of your own experience and what you have been told. You are unable to accept there is NO other way it may be perceived.
This generates tremendous conflict for it is a tremendous lack of acceptance. What we are witnessing now within our world are individuals who express their truths and their differences in their truths, and there is NO BENDING. For you do not question your own truths, and therefore they must be ABSOLUTE and all other individuals must accept them, for your truth is THE truth and another individual’s truth is WRONG, and it is QUESTIONED. Our belief system is one of the most insidious and one of the most difficult to identify and notice.
This unyielding stance has produced or given birth to many things, such as hatred, discrimination and conflicts between religions, between nations, between neighbors and between people
You must be aware of what your truths are and recognizing that they are NOT truths. It is important that you pay attention to what you do and you pay attention to your emotional communications and to your translations of thoughts. There is no need to “bullshit” and throwing challenges.
Don’t you think it's OK if each of us can pursue what he or she wants to study and believe, whether false or true? But the problem comes when we start to ARGUE and FIGHT among each other because of philosophical differences.
“You must love yourself before you love another”. Here is the explanation and learn to digest it if you care. By accepting yourself and joyfully being what you are, you fulfill your own abilities, and your simple presence can make others happy. You cannot HATE yourself and LOVE anyone else. It is impossible. You will instead project all the qualities you do NOT think you possess upon someone else, do them lip service and hate the other individual for possessing them. Though you profess to love the other, you will try to undermine the very foundation of his or her being.
We are familiar with “Love thy neighbor as yourself”. Turn this around and say, “Love yourself as you love your neighbor,” for often you will recognize the goodness in another and ignore it in yourself.
"We are familiar with “Love thy neighbor as yourself”. Turn this around and say, “Love yourself as you love your neighbor,” for often you will recognize the goodness in another and ignore it in yourself."
What are you talking about?
Love you neighbor as yourself were the words of Christ and they imply that you already love yourself despite the fact that you yourself are filled with many faults and there is nothing good or lovable about yourself. Therefore you should love others despite the fact that there is nothing good or loveable about them. We are all sinners, none of us are good, and without Christ we have no value whatsoever as human beings. Every man knows the darkness and evil that is in his heart and mind and still he loves himself. Yet we see evil in others and we hate them for it. Christ says, " you hypocrite, first remove the plank from your eye, then you will see clearly to remove the spec from your brothers eye.” You love yourself even thought you are a sinner, now go and love others with that same kind of love. This is the Love of God, that “while we were still sinners Christ died for us”. That is True love, giving your life for someone that is imperfect not because they deserve your love but because you have chosen to give it to them despite the fact that they don’t deserve it. And more so you value their well-being over your own, even over your own life.
Love is Life
Love does not ask for death or sacrifice.
Love does not ask people to die
Love is Life.
Laws of the entire Universe are governed by Love. What we take we must give back. Too often giving back is seen to be sacrificing.
There are many who subscribe to the idea as I read above that Christ died for them out of love because they were sinners. It makes me sick to even for one moment believe Love needed to die and its my fault.
Love is Life. Love gives life, not blame, or fault of someones death. Shake ya heads!!
LOVE IS LIFE
LOVE IS LIFE
LOVE IS LIFE
LIFE IS LOVE
LIFE IS LOVE
LIFE IS LOVE
Dying, sacrifice,blame,sin,none of those are part of love...
Btw the above mes, is by a different anonymous.than the previous.
Sacrifice does esist. It depends on how each of us see it. When you have love, especially if a person have the unconditional love towards all beings, whether family, husbands or wife, children, neighbours, all people, animals , natures, country,...etc, then he/she is willing to sacrifice to give love to others so as others will be happy or peacefull. It is not that this sacrifice is a suffering to them but they are very happy to do it. Eg a father sacrifice thier time to go out working so that his hard earn money will provide a comfortable home to his family. While the wife sacrifice her time to stay at home and to take care of the household and children in the family. All this is just to create hormany, happiness and increase love in the way they lives.
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